Are you worried that you are not achieving what you said you’d achieve now? Are you worried about something you did in the past? Are you worried about the future? The truth is everyone worries because it’s natural. What you will learn in this blog is incredibly powerful steps to overcome the problem that is worrying!
The first thing you shouldn’t do is beat yourself up for worrying so much. Some people worry more than others and that’s ok. What you shouldn’t accept as ok is to allow your degree of worrying to start affecting your life, your relationships or your career.
As I said, everyone worries about something. Personally, I tend to worry that I am not doing enough now to meet my future goals. I have tried different ways to try and stop myself from worrying, but in reality it’s pointless because a small amount of worry can be good for you, as long as it doesn’t turn into stress. It can actually spur you on (If you haven’t read my blog on how some anxiety can be good for you then read it here).
For example, when I start to worry about the future I know it’s time to stop and reevaluate what I’m doing. I ask myself three powerful question, which are:
- Am I doing the right thing?
- Is what I am doing serving others and serving my goals?
- Can I change what I am doing to better align to my goals?
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A small amount of worry is a catalyst for evaluating yourself. One thing we cannot control, especially when faced with worry, is the past and the future. When you ask yourself the above questions you will re-frame your thought process from thinking about the past or future, to thinking about now.
What I don’t allow myself to do is allow my personal worries to consume me and take over my life, I don’t allow the past or future to control my emotions, and I do not allow it to consume my conversations, not only with myself, but with others. I do not allow it to consume me to the point where I end up not taking action. That doesn’t just happen, there is a leadership power, no matter the crisis, which can help you get to that point.
So what is this special power? To be honest, it’s nothing new or special, but does have incredible power. Even the greats, such as Tony Robbins and Dean Graziosi speak about how powerful this element can be in your life. I remember that when I started to utilise this power I stopped being consumed by worry. The leadership power to help you overcome this problem is the power of presence.
By being present in any situation you give yourself the power to control how you feel, behave and act in any situation. If you begin to worry, presence gives you the power to regain control. Presence gives you the power to focus on now.
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So how do you develop presence? The key is to focus on now. As I described, the above questions help you re-frame your thought process. Next, is to take action. If you find yourself worrying ask yourself the following questions to identify exactly what you’re worried about, but before you do you need to be in a present state. Discover what allows you to block out the world and just focus on you. This could be closing your eyes to meditate, it could be to go for a walk and talk to yourself or it could be to sit in a room with a pen and paper. Do what feels naturally and right. Next, the questions (you’ll need something to write/ type on):
- What specifically are you worried about?
- Why are you feeling like this?
- Is there anything you can do right now to change what you’re worried out?
- If not, what can you do if the problem comes true? Write down options.
- If yes, what are the options?
- Review against what you’re currently doing. Are you already doing all you can?
- What are your next steps? Create a bullet proof personal action plan
The most important aspect of worry and presence is that you are in control. This leadership power of presence (which I discuss in my book) will help you control worry and take your personal development to the next level.
Thank you for reading, JT.
Inspirations
- Tony Robbins
- Dean Graziosi